Talk to People You Disagree with
Everyone occasionally has disagreements with friends or family members. For example, you might not agree which restaurant makes the best pizza. 1 Although disagreements can be uncomfortable, there are some steps you can take to make conversations go on well.
See their perspective
Even if you don't agree with someone's opinions, you can still listen to what they have to say. One way is to listen without interrupting (打断) them. 2 You can start by saying, "OK. I know what you mean. You are saying..."
Use respectful language
3 You can easily get angry especially if it is on a subject you care about a lot. Some people shoot down others' opinions by laughing at them or attacking their judgements. Avoid using impolite words, like "stupid" or "ridiculous." Instead, focus on speaking calmly.
Stick to the facts
During a conversation, if you are interrupted and doubted, stay calm and ask for a chance to speak your opinion out. Relax your shoulders and say what you would like to say. 4
Find common ground
You may find that you can't change the other person's mind, and they may not change yours. 5 In the end, you may gain a better understanding of each other's opinion.
A. You could also ask to express your own thoughts.
B. You may have different views about certain topics.
C. The solution is looking for points you do agree on.
D. Or you may not agree which university suits you best.
E. You could also ask questions or repeat what they said.
F. And you can make a better case with facts instead of feelings.